A relationship counsellor in Australia has suggested easier ways to break up with you lover, while showing respect to him or her at the same time. "Being told 'it's over' is never going to be great news no matter how it is delivered," the Sydney Morning Herald quoted Relationships Australia counsellor, Bill Hewlett. "But you can make it more comfortable to some degree." She suggests that relationship should be called off in person. Do not deliver the bad news by email or even worse, have someone else do it for you. "Ending it in person shows that you have respect for the person and the relationship," said Hewlett. Apparently, April 2 is the date that the more relationships fail than any other according to data released by Facebook which tabulated the number of status changes from 'in a relationship' to 'single' and 'married' to 'divorced' over 2010 and 2011. In any case, if you want to be one of the crowd, today is the day to break it off. Always resort to telling the truth. The tired cliche, 'it's not you, it's me' just doesn't cut it. Tell your partner, with decorum, why the relationship is not working for you. "Everyone needs closure," said clinical psychologist Jo Lamble. "We find it very hard to move on from a relationship if the reasons for the break-up don't make sense. It's far better to be as honest as possible, for the sake of the person you're rejecting." Delivering the news in the form of a feedback sandwich can alleviate the pain inflicted. It works by saying something nice, delivering the bad news and then finishing with a positive statement. "The person getting dumped is going to feel rejected," said Hewlett. "So it's important to give them some good feedback amongst the bad news." Hewlett recommends highlighting a quality you admire in them and to finish by reiterating that your time together will not be forgotten. If you are uncertain about the next step, enlist the help of a counsellor for relationship advice. "Ending a relationship requires serious consideration and that may involve the use of sounding boards including friends, family, or a counsellor," said Jo Lamble. "But be aware that everyone-except hopefully the counsellor - may have their own agenda for any advice they give, so that's why I suggest using others as a sounding board so you can hear your own voice, not theirs." Hewlett also suggests steering clear of your computer as not only will you have to contend with social media's abrupt defriending and unfollowing, you may be receiving an email from WotWentWrong.com, a site allowing dumpees to ask their dumpers for answers via a third party. Timing should be well chosen. Don't deliver the news on a special occasion or birthday, you don't want your ex associating that date with heartbreak and rejection forevermore. And don't do it just before they are heading off to work or an event. It makes sense that Friday is the day of the week that most break-ups happen according to the aforementioned Facebook study, as it gives you and your now-ex the weekend to help recover. To be clear why you are leaving, it might be a good idea to write yourself a detailed list with your reasons. This can be referred to later when you are feeling heartbroken after fixating on the good times. Don't say 'we need to talk'. If you want to set off alarm bells that will cause a wall to instantly come up or for the person to run a mile before you've had the chance to say what you need to say, do not speak, text or email these four dreaded words. Instead, get straight to the point, using the aforementioned feedback sandwich. So that the news is not a massive shock, Jo Lamble advises to give some warnings that you are unhappy in the time leading up to the break-up. Counsellor also suggests taking a test first. Researchers have developed a test which can predict whether a relationship is going to last. Using automatic word association, Ronald D. Rogge and associates from the University of Rochester studied 222 coupled volunteers automatic responses. The researchers found that volunteers who found it easy to associate their partner with bad things and difficult to associate the partner with good things were more likely to separate over the next year. While it is fine to give warnings, Jo Lamble advises against constant threats of leaving. If you say it, be prepared to back it up with the action. Change can be scary, so it's wise to get your hands on as much information as you can in preparation for the life-changing event. Setting boundaries is also quite vital. If asked 'can we still be friends?' know that it might be best to keep your distance for a while. Don't start looking for someone else first as that is just bad taste as you may end up facing the awkward situation of answering your own partner's want ad.
Supermodel Heidi Klum, actress Eva Longoria, singer-actress Nicole Kidman and many others have gone on record saying that they like to bring out their kinky side in the bedroom. Couples who have experienced their 'fetish' for such fantasies swear by its pleasure. Whether you want to be the wild cat and use the belt to control your partner or use sex toys to spunk up your game of love, kinky sex is a great way to add spice to your sex life. Klum had once said, "There's nothing wrong with using a nice garter belt." While she loves to rule, Longoria prefers to be submissive. She admits that she loves being tied up with silk scarves during lovemaking. She likes a man to take charge. Each one of us has a deep desire to be ruled or to rule. Kinky sex gives you the opportunity to turn those dreams into reality. Tie me downImagine lying down on your bed waiting for your partner. Suddenly your hands are handcuffed and you get blindfolded. You have no idea what's happening when your partner whispers in your ear, 'Honey, submit yourself.' He caresses you and takes you on a journey where all your desires seem to be fulfilled. Imagine! You are bound to reach the ultimate point of satisfaction. Role playWhen you are bored with your routine sex life and love making becomes 'just another task, try making it fun (instead of faking that headache). Role-playing is a must-try for those who wish to fulfill their sexual fantasies. Think of some interesting scenarios and don some exciting costumes and let your imagination guide you. Dress up like a maid, or a teenager, or try more mature roles like MILF or a teacher seducing a student. Guys could enact the role of a cow boy, or a cabana boy. Deliciously unexpectedKinky sex is all about 'revealing' your wild side. If you are mild and sober in your real life, be the king of the fantasy world. Dominate the bedroom moves. Spank your partner or do smut talking - the shock your partner will get to see this side of you will get things in the right gear. Lovely toysWhile many use them to satisfy themselves when their partner is away, you can try them when your partner is with you. The reason? Multiple orgasms. Dildos, vibrators, Wen ba balls are some toys you could try to kick-start a heated sexual frenzy. Dance, baby, danceA seductive dance is all it takes to woo your partner. Guys could try the American Pie dance (at your own risk) and girls could do the sexy pole dance. Play her favourite song in the background and do a close dance. Slowly touch her and feel her and you are all set for a hot and sexy night. Spank her tightSpank her, bite him, hit him, pull her hair, do what you like to make it a passionate sexual encounter. These are just a few ways to make your sex life pleasurable. Bring out the sexy, naughty, bitchy you for a more fanatical Love.
Women's magazines, chat shows and conventional wisdom have us believe that men are born cheaters. Some seven-and-a-half years into a relationship, apparently their radar shifts and they start to hunt for sexier conquests. All this while, women too have 'given into the moment', been overcome by emotional weakness and honestly put, cheated on boyfriends and husbands. So women are human too and most certainly indulge the animal within themselves. The X-Factor presents a list of reasons why women would risk a healthy relationship for the 'dark side'. Not enough sex You can't remember the last time you had a night-long sex-a-thon? Life comes in the way of intimacy in ways one doesn’t realise and before you know it, it’s kids over kink, work over wooing and stress over sex. Women want to feel wanted. If you’re not making an effort to make her feel special, she could seek it elsewhere. Rekindle the romance by planning date nights and special sex nights. More importantly, don’t give up on the kissing and cuddling. You cheated, now my turn Whoever said hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, had it bang on (pun unintended). You cheat and the one way she knows she can get back at you is by giving you a dose of your own medicine. For her, cheating in retaliation levels the playing field. While you can’t undo your deeds, you can certainly ask her for forgiveness and assure her it won’t happen again. And mean it. Experimentation Men are not the only ones with an inner wild side. Often women have a very dormant frisky inner self that doesn’t come to the fore until perhaps a major change in their lives. Major weight loss, a new job, a new boss, new friends, moving to a new city or even mid-life crisis can constitute this phase. Anything that is a big change from the mundane can be inspiring enough. Ensure you are communicating well. Better that than having her pour her heart out to someone else, no? Feeling sidelined Women are housekeepers, babysitters and even cleaners while they’re at home. Working women with children have to deal with work stress, a child to go home to and a million tiny chores to finish. Often they feel like they’re getting the raw end of the deal. Don’t sit on your derriere and wait for instructions. Go out and help her with some chores without being asked to. While you’re at it, thank her for doing the kind of things you have no initiative for. Bedroom boredom Over-familiarity breeds adultery. A sex routine can be incredibly boring after years of following the same-position-same-setting format. An affair offers the chance to spice things up and brings in a sense of adventure. Start doing the unexpected-playful PDA, plan a surprise weekend getaway or even some footsie at the dinner table. Feel good factor Sex can lift up one’s mood and make one feel good almost instantly. Good sex, that is. Of course if your wife or girlfriend is prone to low self-esteem there’s little you can do about it, but you can help prevent the situation from deteriorating. While it certainly is taxing if you constantly have to make her feel good and go out of the way to keep her ego intact, it won’t harm you to pay more attention and make her feel secure in her relationship with you. Reaction to your lack of emotions Women think from their hearts. Their most important decisions aren’t executed without a go ahead from their hearts. If your girlfriend/partner notices that over a period of time you have emotionally withdrawn, she looks at it as a sign that things are coming to an end. So in her heart, she is just moving on. Be emotionally present to avoid this situation. A way out This one is convenient. Instead of breaking up with you, she cheats on you. That way she doesn’t have to deal with the broken relationship alone, which is much harder to fix. An affair lets her keep her ego in place and makes her get over you faster. Keeping a Plan B may not always be a good thing. Good communication can thwart this strategy.
Women's magazines, chat shows and conventional wisdom have us believe that men are born cheaters. Some seven-and-a-half years into a relationship, apparently their radar shifts and they start to hunt for sexier conquests. All this while, women too have 'given into the moment', been overcome by emotional weakness and honestly put, cheated on boyfriends and husbands. So women are human too and most certainly indulge the animal within themselves. The X-Factor presents a list of reasons why women would risk a healthy relationship for the 'dark side'. Not enough sex You can’t remember the last time you had a night-long sex-a-thon? Life comes in the way of intimacy in ways one doesn’t realise and before you know it, it’s kids over kink, work over wooing and stress over sex. Women want to feel wanted. If you’re not making an effort to make her feel special, she could seek it elsewhere. Rekindle the romance by planning date nights and special sex nights. More importantly, don’t give up on the kissing and cuddling. You cheated, now my turn Whoever said hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, had it bang on (pun unintended). You cheat and the one way she knows she can get back at you is by giving you a dose of your own medicine. For her, cheating in retaliation levels the playing field. While you can’t undo your deeds, you can certainly ask her for forgiveness and assure her it won’t happen again. And mean it. Experimentation Men are not the only ones with an inner wild side. Often women have a very dormant frisky inner self that doesn’t come to the fore until perhaps a major change in their lives. Major weight loss, a new job, a new boss, new friends, moving to a new city or even mid-life crisis can constitute this phase. Anything that is a big change from the mundane can be inspiring enough. Ensure you are communicating well. Better that than having her pour her heart out to someone else, no? Feeling sidelined Women are housekeepers, babysitters and even cleaners while they’re at home. Working women with children have to deal with work stress, a child to go home to and a million tiny chores to finish. Often they feel like they’re getting the raw end of the deal. Don’t sit on your derriere and wait for instructions. Go out and help her with some chores without being asked to. While you’re at it, thank her for doing the kind of things you have no initiative for. Bedroom boredom Over-familiarity breeds adultery. A sex routine can be incredibly boring after years of following the same-position-same-setting format. An affair offers the chance to spice things up and brings in a sense of adventure. Start doing the unexpected — playful PDA, plan a surprise weekend getaway or even some footsie at the dinner table. Feel good factor Sex can lift up one’s mood and make one feel good almost instantly. Good sex, that is. Of course if your wife or girlfriend is prone to low self-esteem there’s little you can do about it, but you can help prevent the situation from deteriorating. While it certainly is taxing if you constantly have to make her feel good and go out of the way to keep her ego intact, it won’t harm you to pay more attention and make her feel secure in her relationship with you. Reaction to your lack of emotions Women think from their hearts. Their most important decisions aren’t executed without a go ahead from their hearts. If your girlfriend/partner notices that over a period of time you have emotionally withdrawn, she looks at it as a sign that things are coming to an end. So in her heart, she is just moving on. Be emotionally present to avoid this situation. A way out This one is convenient. Instead of breaking up with you, she cheats on you. That way she doesn’t have to deal with the broken relationship alone, which is much harder to fix. An affair lets her keep her ego in place and makes her get over you faster. Keeping a Plan B may not always be a good thing. Good communication can thwart this strategy.
Almost 100 per cent of women who cheat on their partners never get found out, but men are not as good at covering their tracks with 17 per cent admitting to getting caught, a new survey has found. The research carried out by a dating website for married people found that 95 per cent of women and 83 per cent of men claim to have successfully conducted illicit encounters without their spouses finding out. UndercoverLovers asked 3,000 women and the same number of men if their partners knew about their cheating and found that the overall percentage of straying spouses that never get found out is 89 per cent. According to Dr David Holmes, a psychologist at Manchester Metropolitan University, women are having more affairs than ever but they behave very differently from men when they cheat. Recent studies suggest the figure is around 20 per cent for men and a little over 15 per cent for women. "Women are better liars because they''re more psychologically sophisticated," the Daily Mail quoted Holmes as saying. "Emotionally they make plans and have strategies, while men are more impulsive. "The biggest difference is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret. "If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between eight and 15 per cent of children haven't been fathered by the man who thinks he's the biological parent," he said. Emily Pope of Undercover Lovers, which has more than 650,000 members, also said that women are better liars as compared the opposite sex. "Many of our members, both male and female, have been philandering for years without being caught," she said. "Studies have shown that women are actually better liars than men, so it's not surprising that female adulterers are better at getting away with it than their male counterparts," Pope added.
You can remember things from long ago as if they happened just yesterday but at times can't recall what you ate for dinner last night because how much something means to you actually influences how you see it as well as how vividly you can recall it later, researchers say. While this may seem common-sense to romantics across the world, confirmation can now be seen in EEG images which captured the emotions of participants in a new study led by psychologists at the University of Toronto. "We've discovered that we see things that are emotionally arousing with greater clarity than those that are more mundane," the Daily Mail quoted Lead author Rebecca Todd as saying. "Whether they're positive - for example, a first kiss, the birth of a child, winning an award - or negative, such as traumatic events, breakups, or a painful and humiliating childhood moment that we all carry with us, the effect is the same. "What's more, we found that how vividly we perceive something in the first place predicts how vividly we will remember it later on. "We call this 'emotionally enhanced vividness' and it is like the flash of a flashbub that illuminates an event as it's captured for memory," she said. By studying brain activity, Todd's team along with researchers at the University of Manchester and the University of California, San Diego found that the part of the brain responsible for tagging the emotional or motivational importance of things according to one's own past experience - the amygdala - is more active when looking at images that are rated as vivid. This increased activation in turn influences activity in both the visual cortex, enhancing activity linked to seeing objects, and in the posterior insula, a region that integrates sensations from the body. "The experience of more vivid perception of emotionally important images seems to come from a combination of enhanced seeing and gut feeling driven by amygdala calculations of how emotionally arousing an event is," she said. The researchers began by measuring the subjective experience of the vividness of perception. Taking pictures of scenes that were emotionally arousing and negative, emotionally arousing and positive - mostly mild erotica, and neutral scenes, they overlaid the images with varying amounts of 'visual noise', which looked like the snow one would see on an old television screen. The pictures were then shown to study participants who were asked to say whether each image had the same, more, or less noise than a standard image with a fixed amount of noise. "We found that while people were good at rating how much noise was on the picture relative to a standard, they consistently rated pictures that were emotionally arousing as less noisy than neutral pictures regardless of the actual level of noise," she said. In the first study, 45 minutes after they did the noise task, participants were asked to write down all the details they could about pictures they remembered seeing. How much detail they remembered was a measure of vividness. In the second study, participants were shown the pictures again one week later and asked if they remembered them and, if so, how vividly they remembered them from very vague to very detailed. "Both studies found that pictures that were rated higher in emotionally enhanced vividness were remembered more vividly," Todd said. Finally, the researchers used brain imaging measures to look at when the brain responded to emotionally enhanced vividness and what regions of the brain responded. Using electrophysiology (EEG) to measure the timing of activity in the cortex to see when the brain is sensitive to vividness, gave them a sense of whether this subjective vividness was more about seeing vividly, or thinking that it was more vivid when you''re considering it after the fact. "We found that the brain indexes vividness pretty quickly - about a 5th of a second after seeing a picture, which suggests it''s about seeing and not just thinking," Todd said. "Emotion alters activity in the visual cortex, which in turn influences how we see. "When a picture was rated as less noisy, then they actually saw the picture underneath more clearly, as if there is more signal relative to noise in the emotionally arousing picture. "The subjective meaning of a picture actually influenced how clearly the participants saw it," she said. The researchers used additional tests to rule out other explanations of their findings, such as how ''noisy'' a picture seems due to less vibrant colours or a more complex scene. They also used eye-tracking measures to eliminate the possibility that people look at emotionally arousing images differently, causing them to rate some as more vivid. The investigators also used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) to look at what brain regions were more active when people look at things that they perceive as more vivid because they''re emotionally important. Again, they found amygdala, visual cortex, and interoceptive cortex activity went up with increased vividness.
Does your Love life need a boost? Check out our top ten aphrodisiacs guaranteed to spark desire.Get connected Nothing is sexier than remembering why you fell in love with each other in the first place. "By undertaking some sort of bonding activity, you can reignite chemistry," says Dr Morrissey. "Look for aspects of your partner that you first admired before you started focusing on what they weren't doing," she says. "Go back to the kind of dating behaviour that you undertook at the start of the relationship, whether that's scuba diving, going out dancing or to the movies, as having fun together helps you to reconnect. By looking at your partner through fresh eyes, you'll see them with a new appreciation that will reignite your sexual spark." Take a big whiff Remember when a mere hint of your partner's smell induced all-out lust? Take yourself back to those heady days by wearing the same scent you wore back then as you snuggle on the sofa tonight. Have a seafood feast For centuries, oysters have been known as aphrodisiacs, with amorous Casanova said to have eaten 50 for breakfast! Scientists have proven that Casanova was on the right track. A team of scientists at Barry University in Miami analysed bivalve molluscs, a group of shellfish that includes oysters, and found they were rich in rare amino acids that trigger increased levels of sex hormones. So go on a date to your favourite seafood restaurant and order a dozen raw oysters for starters and shellfish for a main. Face up to your problems If your lack of interest in sex is causing problems in your relationship, sex therapists and psychologists can help enhance your libido. "Sexual dysfunction can be the result of many issues, including depression, hormone levels, fatigue or psychological disorders, which can seriously harm the self-esteem of both partners," says Brett McCann, NSW president of ASSERT (Australian Society of Sex Educators, Researchers and Therapists). "Therapists can help by identifying the problem and moving onto a solution." Have a chocolate and red wine night There's something undeniably sensuous about chocolate. This is because cocoa contains phenylethylamine and serotonin, two chemicals that light up pleasure areas in the brain. Alcohol is known to induce feelings of horniness, so enjoy a glass of wine with a little dark chocolate for a sensuous treat. Remember, a moderate amount of wine has been said to arouse, but much more than that will have the opposite effect Exercise more Working out increases your urge for sex because it activates the same feel-good brain chemicals and sends the blood racing to the pelvic region, getting you in the mood. "During and after exercise, blood flows to the genitals," says Dr Gabrielle Morrissey, body+soul's sex and relationships columnist. "This can increase sensation once you start to become turned on." A study at the University of Texas illustrated this when women aged 18 to 34 were asked to watched an X-rated film twice. The first time the women cycled vigorously for 20 minutes beforehand, but the second time, they did no exercise. Researchers calculated their sexual excitement was 169 per cent greater if they exercised first! Being fit and toned also means lovemaking sessions last longer and you are more flexible when it comes to trying new positions. Lift your libido Epimedium, also known as horny goat weed, which grows in China and Asia, may just live up to its reputation, according to researchers at the University of Milan. When looking into natural aphrodisiacs in traditional cultures to establish their potential as alternatives to Viagra, researchers found that horny goat weed contained icariin, a compound that inhibits the enzyme phosphodiesterase 5 (PDE5) inhibitor. Viagra's active compound, sildenafil, works by inhibiting PDE5. Try Fusion Health's Libido, a Chinese herbal tonic formulated with horny goat weed and tribulus, designed to enhance sexual desire and physical performance. Available from www.fusionhealth.com.au Magic potion The herb damiana has been keeping Latin Americans hot and frisky for centuries. Mexicans in particular swear by its aphrodisiac qualities, drinking damiana tea to get them in the mood as well as to treat conditions ranging from constipation to depression. According to herbalist Ellie Dyson, damiana helps with depression, energy levels, low oestrogen levels, female libido, impotency, menopause and premenstrual syndrome (PMS). To make the tea, add 250ml boiling water to one gram of dried leaves and steep for 10 to 15 minutes. Drink three cups per day over two weeks. You'll find damiana at your local herbalist, or visit www.happyhighherbs.com Pitch in According to marital researcher Dr John Gottman from The Gottman Institute, men who do more housework and child care have better sex lives and happier marriages than men who don't. Why, then, did a survey by the Australian Bureau of Statistics, How Australians Use Their Time, find that women still do much more housework than men? So guys, pick up the vacuum cleaner, clean the toilet and pack the kids' lunches and marvel at how much your sex life improves! Dr Morrissey says when women feel more respected, they give more to their partner and the relationship prospers. "Relationships are supposed to be equal, but often women carry more of the responsibility," she says. "When men take on more of the burden, the woman feels cared for and appreciated, and more connected to her partner." Hence more sex! 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Do you often get into mood to have romance after reading erotic messages? And your girl friend says hearing your voice on phone turns her on? You cannot say that your wavelengths didn’t match based on this point. A research has revealed that what turns one on depends on individual personality as well as the age group. While phone calls and SMSes touch the erotic chords of youngsters, dinners and wine are real romance boosters to the elderly. The research stated that 22 per cent of men and women aged between 18 and 34 said they would have an urge to have romance after they go through teasing lines or phone calls whereas only 12 per cent of those aged between 35 and 64 agreed to this. Five per cent of men and women said they would like to jump into their beds after they watch romantic movies. The study has also revealed that 44 per cent of women will like to share bed each time their partners said ‘I Love You.’ So, folks the best way to turn your girl is to say the three simple words in most passionate way. (Phani) (issued in the interest of the public)
A good smooch can end a fight, relieve stress, strengthen your bond. Lean right: About two-thirds of all humans, male and female, left- and right- handed, tilt their heads to the right when kissing. End a fight: Men think that kissing is a highly effective way to end a fight. Women think that's hooey. For once, the women are incorrect. "The evidence shows," says evolutionary psychology professor Gordon Gallup, that "kissing is so powerful for females that even though they deny it, once it occurs, they're so affected by a kiss ..." That they're helpless in its grip? "Yup." The foot pop: Remember those great standing kisses in old movies, where the girl demonstrates ecstasy by lifting her delicately shod tootsie behind her? That move was called "foot pop." A lick & a promise: More men than women describe a good kiss as one that involves tongue contact, saliva exchange and moaning. It's in his kiss: After a relationship is established, women are much more likely than men to use kissing to monitor the commitment. "There is good evidence that the frequency of kissing is a pretty good barometer of the status of a relationship," Gallup says. Bugs like kissing. Kissing is implicated in the spread of mononucleosis and oral herpes. The connection to meningitis and gastric ulcers is more distant but exists. It gives you big ears: The hormonal and neurotransmitter cascade triggered by kissing includes:• Adrenaline (which increases heart rate)• Endorphins (which produce euphoria)• Oxytocin (which helps development attachment)• Serotonin (which affects mood) • Dopamine (which helps the brain process emotions) Your heart rate increases, your blood vessels dilate, your body receives more oxygen, and then all sorts of other parts of your body kick in. Your earlobes swell. It's a stress-reliever: When kissing, cortisol levels drop for both romance, meaning that kissing does in fact reduce stress. During kissing-under-laboratory conditions, oxytocin rises for males but unexpectedly drops for females. Neuroscientist Wendy Hill speculates this means that to bond, females may require a more romantic atmosphere than the experimental setting provided. Hill presented a paper on Feb. 14 at the American Association for the Advancement of Science annual meeting titled "Kissing Chemicals: Hormonal Changes in Responses to Kissing." The apes do it: Very few creatures other than humans are great kissers. The marked exceptions are our close relatives the chimpanzees and bonobos. Chimps, in fact, engage in kissing-and-making-up after conflict.
Are you losing that little something when it comes to reigniting the intimacy after all these years? Find out how to turn him on and bring back the sizzle in no time. In the first five tips, you would have noticed that more than knowing how to turn him on, it’s about knowing how to rekindle that spark in love. How to turn him on All of us take our partners for granted over time, and this can lead to very boring romance and yawn inspiring bed time talk. Use these tips to turn things around and become frisky bunnies all over again. Compare Even when you’re watching television or reading a magazine, point out all those actors or models who’re supposed to be good looking or charming, and let him know if you think he’s better than them in some way. It may be his looks, his wit or sense of humor, but point it out to him. As long as you sincerely believe that he’s better in some or all aspects, tell him. Not only is that a huge ego boost, but it also lets him know that you fancy him too. Every man wants to know that his girl still thinks he’s hot even after all these years. Lingerie No, not for you, for him! Get him a pair of silk boxers (or whatever he prefers), and ask him to model them for you. Tell him what you like about what he’s wearing. And get very specific about what you find so desirous about him in his hot negligees. It works on women every time, so why not on men?! Jump him Plain and simple. This accomplishes everything you’re asking for, no words necessary. Drag him into the bedroom (or the kitchen table, on the floor, or over to the couch). Throw him down. And have at him as if he were your last meal. You’re just so turned on by him that you can’t even control yourself. Now that is definitely one big compliment! [Read: What men want in bed] Exclusivity Nobody can touch your body the way he does. Nobody else could ever make you feel that good. Nobody has ever turned you on as much as him. Get the idea? He knows he’s the only man in your world. Now let him know why. And don’t forget to add all the details. Write to him An e-mail. A letter. A poem. Pour your feelings out on paper and give them to him. Love letters have worked on women for hundreds of years. Maybe it’s time the tables were turned. Repeat as necessary Find what works for you and him. Go with it. Or, mix it up a little. Keep him on his toes. He’ll never know where the next compliment is coming from. Basically, all you need to do is try new ways to stroke him (and his ego), and you’re good to go.
Men and women often want very different things from a lovable relationship. For many men they are simply looking for a bit of fun; a one off fling that is fun but which isn’t leading anywhere. However they find out too late that the woman has other ideas! Before jumping into bed with a woman, there are 5 things that you really need to know. 1. What is she looking for?This is perhaps the most important question that you need to ask. You need to know exactly what she expects from you. Is she just looking for casual romance or is she hoping it will be more permanent? It could even be the other way around. Maybe you are looking for something serious and she is just after a bit of fun? Knowing what the romance means to her will help you to decide whether or not to go ahead. 2. AffectionIf you plan on having romance with the woman more than once then you need to give affection before and after romance. This is a step which many men skip. Women need to feel loved and wanted. Cuddling and kissing helps your woman to feel loved before and after romance. Affection is a very big part of romance with a woman and it is something that you should be willing to do to please her. 3. Her Romance HistoryThere is a lot of advice out there relating to women finding out about a man’s romance history. However, there isn’t a lot of advice out there for men. It is just as important to find out about her romance history as it is for her to find out about yours. How many romance partners has she had? Does she use protection? These are the main questions that you need to ask before deciding whether or not to have romance with her. 4. Back Up Against the PillMany men have found out through experience that it is always a good idea to use backup protection even if she is on the pill. There are all kinds of things which can affect how the pill works so it is better to wear a condom too just to be safe. 5 .How Well Do You Know Her?Of course you should still make sure that you know the woman you are about to have romance with. Think about how well you know her. Will having romance with her ruin anything between you? Are you both ready to take the relationship to the next level?
Every relationships has their ups and downs and every relationships have fights. It’s all about learning how to fight fair though. Remember, you love your partner, so learning how to fight fair is very important. I know that I have to back track a lot and reel myself in so that I fight fair in my relationship. If you are constantly fighting with your partner and you’re looking for ways on how to fight fair, I’ve got them! Below, I’m going to go over the top 7 ways on how to fight fair! 1. Avoid the past The first thing that you need to learn when you’re learning how to fight fair is a not bringing up the past. Trust me ladies, this one is really hard to do, but it’s essential when you want to fight fairly. So, quit bringing up the past and I promise, you’ll see a huge difference in how your man responds! 2. Work togeather Just because you are fighting doesn’t mean that you can’t work together to find a solution to the problem. Truthfully, this is probably the best way to work out the fight. Just remember, keep it calm, cool and collected and you’ll see just how different it is to fight fairly! 3. Don't go to Bed fighting This is absolutely a rule in my house and should be in yours too! If you’re fighting and it is close to bed time, it’s so much better to resolve the fight and go to bed on good terms rather than have a horrible night’s sleep and continue to fight. If you think that the fight needs to go on much longer than your bedtime, why not postpone it? Make time to talk the next day about the issue. Talk, not fight. 4. No-No Words When it comes to learning how to fight fair there are words out there that you shouldn’t use in a fight. Cursing at one another, name calling and even words like ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’ are words that can be perceived poorly. Trust me, if you change your wording around, you’ll see just how much of a difference it makes! 5. Hit it on The Head With Facebook, tumblr and Twitter out there, it’s super easy to be passive-aggressive right? Don’t. Ladies, one surefire way to make your man even more mad is by being passive-aggressive via social media websites. Just hit the nail right on the head and confront him. It’ll make all of the difference! 6. Rationalize In a fight, it can be super easy to just go off the handle in anger. If you take a few moments and just rationalize your attitude and why you are angry, it’ll make all of the difference in the world. For me, I tend to go off the handle in anger a lot of the time, lately, I’ve been taking a few moments and we’ve gotten over fights in minutes rather than hours! 7. Don't Attack Finally, this is probably the biggest thing that you can take into consideration when you’re learning how to fight fair. Don’t attack your partner. In the end, you still love him right? No reason to really attack him when you’re in a fight.