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Why you shouldn't talk about your ex

Posted: 07/31/2012 10:55 AM IST

Dropping an ex's name way too often? Then decide what your plan of action is...

When it comes to a relationship, talking about an ex is like walking directly into a minefield. You just don't know when one of them is going to blow up in your face. Here are some reasons why you shouldn't talk about your ex.

For a girl, hearing another woman's name (especially an ex) can incite some very violent reactions. Other women just clam up and decide not to talk. Now, men would go mad if that happened. Men shouldn't talk about their ex in the first place to the woman in front of them because it will only end in trouble. There's no good way to end a conversation that starts with your ex. You can be certain that its going to end with an awkward.. "Soooo, that's that" or a .. "yeah, so that's how it ended".

Really? Would you want your conversations to end that way? Alisha Kumar, a designer says that when her boyfriend mentions about his ex, it is usually in the context of "she was a really nice woman". "While I understand that this woman would have been the one, he has to understand the fact that I am with him now. I feel compared always. I just don't need to listen about what a great soul his ex was. I am sure she was a lovely woman." says Alisha.

Women have a knack of talking about their exes to get their boyfriends jealous. The strange thing with women is that the minute they realise that a man is falling for them, they do everything in their will to stay away. Not because they don't like the guy, but because here they're trying to follow the "play hard to get". Women, stay away from such complications and do us a favour by just not mentioning your exes.

The fact is that, its never really over with your ex but if this man is really it, then you should refrain from doing such things. Arun Jacob who has been in a relationship for the past one year says that his girlfriend mentions about her ex in a very casual manner, hoping it wouldn't upset him. "She's trying to keep me in the loop with this ex of hers. So that I don't read it somewhere or find out details from other people. I think that's really sweet of her. It's nice to know that she tells me everything!" Arun is also of the opinion that if you really trust your woman, you shouldn't have issues with the ex.

If you're on the receiving end of the conversation, keep these in mind:

1. Stay it out straight that you aren't comfortable listening about the girlfriend/boyfriend

2. Want to get back at? Then, start the ex-wars. (If this is your option)

3. The happy solution? Don't mention the ex. There's always trouble there.

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